The holidays are upon us! This time of year, while exciting, can also be daunting to those with special needs children. Some parents may choose to opt out of events or be stressed trying to make sure their child has an enjoyable time. Below are some things I have found useful, through plenty of trial and error, to help navigate the holidays with a special needs child.
1. Have a game plan.
I am a planner through and through. I have found that having an idea of what we are doing and putting it on a calendar is extremely helpful. Not only do I like the structure, but so does my son. Big family gatherings can be overstimulating even for adults! We make a point to know in advance where we are going, what we are bringing, who will be there, and what to do if it becomes too much.
2. Forewarned is fore-armed.
This is probably one of my favorite phrases when it comes to being a special needs parent. I feel blessed to have married into an incredible family that fully accepts my son and meets him where he is at. That being said, I have found it helpful to give everyone a heads up on things, like if he’s having a rough day, or when certain things may trigger him. This lets the host/hostess accommodate if they need to and be aware that we may suddenly need to leave.
3. Come prepared.
I like to be prepared for anything because anything can happen. A helpful habit for me is keeping sensory things on hand. I also make sure to bring a change of clothes, my son’s favorite stuffed animal, his tablet with a charger, headphones, and back-up headphones. I also make sure that there is a place he can safely retreat to if things do become too much. Bringing favorite foods can be a huge help, as well!
4. Communicate with your child about what is going to happen.
As Emmett has progressed and gotten older, this has become a lot easier with us. We will explain “First, Then, and After” to him, like the following:
- First we are going to get ready and drive to Nana’s house.
- Then we are going to help get the food ready.
- After that we will eat
This lets him know what to expect, and often I will have him repeat this order to me. I let him know he can always come and let me know if he needs anything or if he wants to go to another room. Sometimes there is a little push back, but, overall, we are able to get through it.
In Conclusion. . .
Remember to praise your child for doing a good job! I remind Emmett that while it might seem scary, we are so proud of him, and he is doing great. I hope you remember to also have fun and enjoy your time. Yes, it is stressful, but these moments with our kids do not last forever. Also, it does get easier each time. As always, you are doing a great job and have got this!
